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Fun Fact Friday

  • People who speak two languages, may unconsciously change their personality when they switch languages.

  • Cuddling has the same effect on your brain as taking painkillers.


  • Your mind spends about 70% of it’s time replaying memories and creating scenarios.

  • When a person becomes more likeable because they are clumsy or make mistakes, it’s called the “Pratfall Effect.”

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11 Ways Men And Women Think Differently

Men and women are different. There are some good biological reasons for that. Studies of brain scans of men and women show that women tend to use both sides of their brain because they have a larger corpus callosum. This is the bridge between the two hemispheres of the brain and allows women to share information between those two halves of the brain faster than men. Men tend to use the left side of the brain which is the more logical and rational side of the brain. Scans also reveal other interesting ways in which men and women do things differently or process information differently from each other.


Women have smaller brains that are more tightly packed with connections. This allows them to perform better at tasks involving the bigger picture and situational thinking. A man’s brain tends to perform better at spatial thinking involving recognizing patterns and problem solving with objects in a spatial environment.

Men tend to excel better at singular tasks while women are better at juggling a number of tasks at once. This may stem from the primordial male role of the hunter who is fixated on a singular objective while the traditional female role of manager of the home forced her to juggle many tasks simultaneously.

Women tend to perform better in social situations than men do. Men tend to excel at more abstract thinking and task-oriented jobs. Again, this may stem from the traditional gender roles whereby women had to work together to accomplish more complex tasks while men spent more time alone stalking prey.

Women have a larger limbic system in their brains which allows them to be more in touch and expressive about their emotions. Men tend to be a little oblivious with emotions that are not explicitly verbalized. Men tend to be more logical in their thinking and dismiss information that is not directly involved with the issue they are tackling. Women tend to be much more empathetic and susceptible to emotions influencing their thinking.

Men tend to have larger inferior parietal lobules than women. This area of the brain is thought to control mathematical ability and processes. Men tend to do better with math because of this. This isn’t to say that there are not women who are great at math, but that men have a small biological advantage when it comes to math and logic based skills.

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The amygdala is the area of the brain responsible for pain. Pain is activated in either the right (men) or left (women) hemispheres. The right side is more connected with external stimuli, while the left is more connected to internal stimuli. Women tend to feel pain more intensely than men do because of this.

Women tend to be better at learning languages and are more attuned to words and sounds. This may be why men tend to find it harder to express themselves verbally. It may stem from the increased demand on women over millions of years to cooperate and organize in order to manage large complex tasks.

Women have tend to have higher activity in their hippocampus, the region responsible for forming and storing memories, than men do. Studies have shown that women tend to remember faces, names, objects and events better than men.

Men tend to have better spatial-reasoning skills and are better at remembering geographic details. They tend to have a better innate sense of direction and remember where areas and locations are. This ability most likely stems from their days as hunters when men had to navigate long distances without the aid of a map and compass.

Men tend to be more likely to take risks. Women tend to be more risk averse. Men get a bigger dose of endorphins when they take risks. The bigger the risk, the larger the pleasure derived from the risky behavior. Men may be specialized to take more risks because of early human’s need to hunt down food which may be larger, stronger and more dangerous than a single man. Hunting is also inherently dangerous as some predator may be stalking you while you are stalking another prey animal.

11. SEX
Men tend to be more visual in what arouses them, while women tend to be turned on by a combination of things like ambiance, emotions, scents as well as visual perceptions.

While equal, men and women have different biological strengths and weaknesses. These differences may stem from a very long period of specialization between genders. Humans have been hunter/gatherers much longer than we have been civilized farmers and tradesmen. This long period of adaptation to changing environments may be responsible in some small part for traditional gender roles based on biology and physical specialization. Men and women, while different, are complementary like a knife and a fork.


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Fun Fact Friday

  • 80% of the time, it’s not that a person changed…. you just never knew who they actually were. 
  • The average amount of time a woman can keep a secret is 47 hours and 15 minutes.
  • A human adult is made up of about 7,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 atoms.
  • Lack of sleep causes the brain to remember events incorrectly.


  • The male brain is 10% bigger than the female’s but the female brain works more efficiently.
  • Because the English language is so complex, every day the average person will create a sentence that has never been said before.
  • In the next 30 seconds, you will, on average, produce 72 million red blood cells, shed 174,000 skin cells, and have 25 thoughts.
  • Most people dream in color, but those that grew up watching black and white television often dream in black and white.

Happy Friday  

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Are You Too Hard On Yourself? Read This


I used to have a habit of correcting people’s grammar. Friends, boyfriends, strangers — if their verb and adverb didn’t agree, they’d hear about it! This was likely very irritating for most people who spoke with me, although I’m sure somewhere during a job interview an ex-boyfriend is thanking me …

But my criticism didn’t stop at “wells” and “goods.” I experienced my being and my world through uber-judgmental glasses. I could find a flaw faster than I could find my left hand.

I thought the Mona Lisa, and, well, the rest of Europe, were really underwhelming. I thought I was disgusting every time I looked in a mirror. I had unrealistically high expectations for everyone and everything. Always judging made me miserable to be around, and, well, miserable.

I was miserable because judgment is at the root of all our pain: Judging ourselves causes depression; judging others puts a wedge between our relationships; judging our experiences or future experiences causes frustration and disappointment. Judging our feelings causes shame.

Often, what’s at the root of our pain is self-criticism. We judge ourselves, we judge others. We judge experiences. We judge feelings. In response, we feel disappointment, frustration, discouragement, anger, and anxiety. In fact, studies have shown self-criticism is linked to depression, anxiety, and eating disorders, among other ailments.

Although I’ve significantly changed my relationships to the world and myself over the past few years, I’m human and of course still catch myself judging. Like when I check out my boyfriend’s selfie-filled Instagram feed of super-babes. Or I catch my reflection in a window when I’m in a particularly self-loathing frame of mind. Or I lose my debit card for the 4th time in a month.

Those are times when I notice that critical, judgmental voice. Of course, then I judge myself for judging (Megan, you hypocrite! You’re supposed to be compassionate and nonjudgmental!)

But then I become aware of judging myself for judging, and empathize with my experience. After all, judgement is deeply imbedded into us. We are taught from a young age to develop strong critical thinking skills. To be rational. Independent. Self-sufficient. to analyze and criticize. Thus, trying to detach from judgment can be very challenging.

I of course still catch myself judging, but here are six steps I’ve found have liberated me from the shackles of perpetual (self) criticism:

1. Notice yourself judging.

The first step to change is awareness, so focus on that for now. This can be challenging for those of us with high expectations for ourselves, as we tend to want to see results immediately.

However, like many of our unserving thoughts, judgment can become so automatic we don’t even notice we’re doing it — like breathing. So, your first task in becoming less (self) critical is to notice when you’re judging.

2. Be curious. You can’t be judgmental and curious at the same time.

Try to perceive your world with a beginner’s mind, an open mind. Replace criticism with wonder; replace judgement with curiosity. Here are a few examples:

  • Be curious about your emotions. For example, you could ask yourself: What is this sensation that I’m feeling? What is it trying to tell me? Can’t figure out? Don’t judge yourself for not being able to interpret it. Get curious about that! Have I felt this before? I wonder how long it might stick around? I wonder what the adaptive quality of this emotion might be.
  • Be curious about people’s stories and behaviors. Some ideas to consider: What she been through? Has he had his heart broken? What are they feeling right now? What possessed her to make that rude comment?
  • Be curious about your thoughts. Some ideas: How is thinking that I’m ugly/fat/foolish benefitting me? Where do these ideas come from? or I wonder why I’m judging that person for posting a selfie right now. Am I jealous? Threatened? Triggered in some way?
  • Be curious about your experiences, especially if you find yourself comparing them to others. For example, I wonder what this performance will bring? rather than This Cirque De Soleil better be as good as the last one!
  • Be curious about the future. Some fun ways to go about this: I wonder where I’ll be in 5 years. There are so many different directions life could go! That’s a gentler route than telling yourself things like, In 5 years I will be married with 2 children and a stable career, or else I will consider myself a failure.
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3. Soften your language.

Language is emotionally evocative. Consider how you feel when you say, “the trip was horrible” or “the weather is shitty.”

Now think about how you feel when you say “the trip had its challenges” or “it’s been raining for 32 days.”

Think of how you feel when you say, “I ate [or drank/slept/flirted] way too much — that’s so bad!”

Compare that to telling yourself this: “The amount I [or drank/slept/flirted] did not serve me.”

One is going to make you feel shame, while another is going to give you a bit more space to step back and review your experience with compassion and with less distress.

You get the point. Try to use neutral language, rather than words and descriptors that bring about strong feelings. Softening your language can help you detach from judgment.

Try to reduce your usage of words like bad, good, right, wrong, fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, stupid, smart.

Instead, use words like helpful, unhelpful, serving, unserving, comfortable, uncomfortable, interesting, unexpected, challenging, etc.

Play with your vocabulary a bit and see what connotations different words bring up for you. If they leave you feeling ashamed, angry, worthless, or disappointed, try to find different words to describe your experience.

4. Cultivate empathy.

When we step into the suffering of ourselves or others, we have a harder time being judgmental. Continuing to use your curiosity, try to understand what the person you’re judging might be feeling and experiencing.

If you’re working on becoming less self-critical, try to practice empathy toward yourself for having the thoughts and feelings you’re having, and/or for engaging in whatever “bad” behavior you’re judging yourself for. As with being curious, it’s very hard to be critical and empathetic at the same time.

5. Practice, practice, practice.

You know how when you’re meditating, and you notice your mind has inevitably wandered, you’re taught to congratulate yourself for noticing and bring your attention back to your breath? Same goes for when you notice yourself inevitably judging.

Instead of beating yourself up, label it “judging” and try to approach the situation with tolerance and compassion. You’re creating new neural pathways, and improvement won’t happen overnight.

6. Find (or influence) your people.

Consider who might be a toxic or negative influence in your life. Who in your world might be contributing to a culture of judgment? There’s a difference between talking about another with respect, concern, or wonder, and callously trash-talking. There’s a difference between compassionately expressing you’d like to lose a couple pounds and verbally abusing yourself for existing.

If you notice you’re in the habit of bashing, whether the object of this negativity is another or yourself, try to steer the conversation in a less critical direction. Or spend more time with people who live (fairly) nonjudgmentally and compassionately. Oh, and stop reading tabloids and Perez Hilton-esque sites! They both normalize and perpetuate criticism and judgment.

Try it for a few days. See what happens. For me, shame, anxiety, and disappointment don’t come around as often. And for my friends, neither does the Grammar Police.