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5 Ways to Ensure Your Vibration Stays High

JULY 30, 2015 

Once we attain our goals we feel fulfilled. Finally our dream has been achieved. But what do you notice ….

It slowly starts evaporating once we touch it. You want more, right? Newer, bigger, better, faster, different. That is our motto. Your mind constantly dangles a carrot in front of you with the promise of future satisfaction.

But as soon as you bite it, another one pops up that seems even more delicious than the first one. The self-perpetuating play of chasing your desires. And so the eternal search continues … If only we could keep that cherished feeling a bit longer.

But how is it that we are never satisfied with what we have over a longer period of time?

Hedonistic adaptation

The answer lies in what in ‘hedonistic adaptation’. Hedonistic adaptation is the tendency of humans to quickly return to a relatively stable base level of happiness, despite major positive/negative events.

Hedonistic adaptation has an evolutionary origin. We humans adapt fast. That used to be a good thing.

Imagine yourself being thrown back to the cavemen –era, thrown in the wild with little protection and constant danger. It was more useful then to pay attention to new things, stimuli and changes in the environment which could be potentially life-threatening.

It didn’t really pay off to only appreciate and reflect on the things you have and sit down in perfect bliss. That would NOT be an ideal strategy back then.

That’s why our brain is wired to focus on novel things and change in the environment and short-term strategies to survive.

Hedonistic adaptation has an upside (we can get over bad things quickly), but also a downside (but also the good things). It follows that appreciation, satisfaction and gratitude often doesn’t come automatically for us, but takes conscious effort. But why is this so?

Social comparison

Humans are social creatures. The rating your give your happiness is in large part made in comparison to others. Humans don’t have a set happiness point.

Suppose I give you two options:

a) I give you a raise of 300 dollars and your colleges 100 dollars or

b) I give you a raise of 400 dollars and your colleges 500 dollars.

Which one would you choose?

Well … the logical thing would be to choose for the last option. You actually earn more than in the first option.

But researchers have actually tested this and came to the conclusion that people are happier in the first scenario. We compare ourselves to the average in our environment. You judge from the environment where you live right now.

We are happy … but in comparison to others.

This also explains why income inequality is a bigger predictor of unhappiness than the gross national product once a basic level of basic survival needs is reached.

So how can you make happiness last longer?

#1. Reflect on where you already are

If you reflect on good things that you have and gained, it automatically cultivates more optimism and a positive mood. You see the bigger picture and notice things that by now you have taken for granted. We start framing our reality in a new way.

It’s the same thing what a lot of painters do. They see the extraordinary in the ordinary. They bring forward elements and focus our attention on things that we normally don’t notice anymore, because we are used to it.

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#2. Look back at the progress you’ve made

We look at ourselves through the situation at the present moment. The current standards and beliefs we hold. The goals we achieved and the progress we’ve made.

When you first start out lifting weights, you advance a lot. You quickly raise the bar higher. You immediately notice the changes, feel good and proud about yourself.

But if you see yourself in the mirror each day …. you fail to notice the results. You’re thinking from the perspective of the person who you are right now, instead of the person who you’ve been. Although that person would be enormously grateful with how you look right now.

It takes an old friend who you haven’t seen for a while to realize how much you’ve changed. You are constantly pushing your limits. Focusing on a new point and a new horizon. But you never look back to notice what you already achieved. We keep on looking forward … toward a future that never comes.

Change mostly comes gradually. Day by day, step by step. But if you take a step each day and do that over a long period of time, you’ve traveled a long way.

But to see that you have to pause and reflect on the growth you achieved and the lessons you learned along the way. You can see the beauty of the path that guides you along your hero’s journey.

#3. Gratitude

Gratitude cultivates the act of appreciation. There is a lesson to be learned from everything. Every closed door opens a new door.

You need the bad to appreciate the good. Without that contrast you wouldn’t be able to judge experiences. There is no right belief. It comes down to choosing the most empowering beliefs that work for you, without hurting others.

Have gratitude towards others. You know how hard it is to give yourself gratitude. Imagine how you would feel when someone would give it to you.

When you start looking at life through that lens, life will have more meaning and possibilities. Problems can be viewed as obstacles … or challenges. How would you learn without making any mistake?

If we put our focus on what we do have, life doesn’t seem so bad. Shelter, tasty food and water, safety and a good health were once the things people prayed for. At the end of the day ask yourself the question ‘does this truly matter’?

Tip: Keep a gratitude journal. I write down the things I am grateful for just before I go to sleep. It brings peace to my day just before bedtime.

#4. Celebrate

Celebrate the (small) victories you’ve made. Pause for a second. Let it sink in. Sit back and enjoy. You have finally realized what you want. Isn’t that a reason to be happy?

It’s time to give yourself some congratulations and throw a party with some friends.

#5. Find variety and novelty in repetition

Humans are the only animals that are bored. Animals live in the present. Humans have the gift of self-consciousness with an ability to reflect on the past and the future.

To be happy, you have to find pleasure and variation in repetition. Because you easily get used to circumstances and activities it is very important to keep alternating them.

So you’ve got to use a timing that hinders habituation and to connect with the only moment that ever exists … the now.

By: Filip Van Houte


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Be Nice! (Because Rudeness Could Be Contagious)

A new study in the Journal of Applied Psychology claims that rudeness, like the common cold, is often contagious.

The study asked a group of students at the University of Florida to engage in multiple negotiation rounds with various partners and report on how rude they perceived each partner’s behavior to be. The students who reported rude partners were more likely to act rudely in their next round.

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“Some of the negotiations took place one after another, and some took place up to seven days apart,” study author, Trevor Foulk, tells Gizmodo. “We found that the time between negotiations didn’t seem to matter. The rudeness experienced in the previous negotiation still caused participants to be rude in their next negotiation.”

Folk explains this subconscious reaction by saying that when people experience rudeness, they often begin to notice more rudeness in their environment and are more likely to respond with rudeness. Previous studies suggest that happiness spreads from person to person in a similar way.

Your daily behaviors clearly affect the people around you, so go ahead and flash a few extra smiles today. They may travel further than you think.


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How Changing Your Beliefs Changes The World Around You

I always tend to see a basic fault when I hear people talk about hoping for change in the world. It’s the idea that we see the notion of change as something happening outside of us, driven by some faceless group of elite scientists, inventors and leaders coming up with some revolutionary idea that would set the world on a different course.

The fault with this notion is that it comes from the same mould which gave form to the problem in the first place – separation. We feel that we are separate from all the atrocities happening in different corners of the world; separate from shady global deals done in the interest of the few; separate from the marvelous work done by selfless peacekeepers and volunteers; separate from the bloodied hands of our previous generation and the problems of the next generations.

We think that we are helpless, innocent and powerless in the face of all this and that the change we expect ‘has’ to come from others, individuals, collectives or nations.

The Pain of Separation

When we look at the world outside we constantly see problems. We see real world problems such as overpopulation, energy crisis, water scarcity, the destruction of our environment, health hazards, etc. We also see degenerative and auto destructive patterns of behaviour such as greed, materialism, madness, over-consumerism and the general disenchantment with the world and the Universe. In short, we see modern Man as having lost his soul and disconnected with his spirit and the natural world.

When you think of it, in fact, all of these problems we see are rooted in separation.  Humanity seems to be off course because we have separated ourselves from our ancestral wisdom, our enchantment with the magical Universe, with ourselves, with our being. We have increasingly ingrained in us the false idea of individual freedom at the cost of community welfare. We feel that we have the freedom to be separate from our global community and affairs that affect the millions. So the recurrent theme is separation.

Wearing the Inside Out

On another level, we fail to see that our outer world, with all its blessings and problems is merely a projection of our inner world, both individually and collectively. Wars, atrocities, eco-destruction and restlessness is nothing more than a projection of what is happening internally on a deeper psychic level. The state of the world we are in, is nothing more than the state we are in internally on a collective level. Once again, we feel there is a separation between our internal and outer reality which is basically nothing more than a mere illusion. On a positive note, the positive change we are starting to witness is also a reflection of our nascent change in consciousness, first on a individual then collective scale.

Re-programming Your Reality

I feel that the idea to work with is that before we expect any mass changes to the afflictions we see around us in the world, we should start experimenting with changing the immediate reality around us, equipped with the idea that we can bend our personal reality by shifting how we face the world and interact with it. As the iconic quote from Gandhi goes “Be the change you want to see”.

We start shifting our reality not by gaining anything new but by releasing and letting go of years of conditioning and self-limiting beliefs. Here are some beliefs we ought to start adopting, while letting go of their complete opposite, if we really want to start seeing the change happening around us:

1) You are always part of the equation of life

When we feel disconnected we lose our real power. That power is the feeling of being one with life – of being an integral part of the equation. Again, the human dis-ease is that we feel separate from and powerless over the currents of our life stream.

When we realign ourselves with the belief that we are part of the whole eco-system of life with its subtleties and magic, we create a powerful inner conviction that enables us to trust and have faith in whatever is happening. This is the magical ingredient for staying in tune with our highest potential and unblocking those obstacles that keep us from moving forward and changing our reality.

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2) You can empower yourself to be the change you want

We are embedded in a system that is programmed to disempower us and condition us into believing that change happens outside of us. Yet, when we listen closer to our heart, we realise that this empowerment or disempowerment is only in our hands. If we allow ourselves to be grind down by the machinery of the system, then that is what we create.

If on the other hand we take charge of our life and destiny and encourage ourselves with the idea that only we have the power to make the change, we are turning the tables on the system. We start becoming free hearts and free thinkers. The shackles no longer bind us because we become masters of our own destiny.

3) You are a co-creator of your own reality

It’s a simple but powerful truth really. You are the co-creator of your own reality. Look at your life, the state you are now in – whether good or bad. You had a big say to create all that, whether you are conscious of it or otherwise. Since we are agents in our own life, we make choices, interact, dream and act, we are undeniably co-creators of our own reality. The more we catch up with the idea and consciously take hold of it, the more we can co-create and change our life positively.

4) Healing is losing the sense of separateness & fear

If you consciously look deep into yourself, you will find a constant yearning for healing, for restoring your being. This is a constant spiritual quest that we look for in different ways, at different times in our life. What this healing really means is remembering who we really are – our real power, our humanity and divinity at the same time. Most of all healing is transcending fear and our sense of separateness.

It is important then to always remember that we can heal ourselves by moving away from fear and the belief that we are disconnected and alone in a hostile universe, to one where we have faith that no matter how our life fluctuates, it’s all fine since we are supported by an infinite source of love and power.

5) Others are allies to your co-creations

The sense of separation continues to be reinforced by the sense of ‘us and them’. We feel that others can be a threat to our own wellbeing and happiness. We see them as possible competitors in a limited pool of resources. We enter into the survival mindset.

This is all very counterproductive at best. The more we let go of the sense of fear and separateness (thus being healed), the more we see others as potential allies and contributors to our own co-creations. This cannot be otherwise if we start from the premise that everything is interconnected and that we are an integral part of the equation of life (see point number one).

People who have become conscious co-creators of their own destiny know the true value and power in this. They understand the importance of helping, sharing, trusting and giving out while getting in. They understand human nature more intimately, knowing that each and every person, no matter how his or her outer behaviour can be off-putting, carry the same potential for healing themselves, others and the world around them.

6) You can always change the channel you tune into

Another fundamental truth that has been echoed in various forms is that everything is ultimately energy and vibration at different levels of frequency:  From very low, soul-wrenching vibrations to elevating, exhilarating frequencies of love and bliss. You have ultimately the power and freedom to choose which channel to tune into. Negative self-talk, self-limiting beliefs, fear, cynical friends, etc, will keep you stuck in a reality that vibrates at low frequency, so to speak.

On the other hand, opening your heart to new experiences and adventures, doing more of the things you like, being grateful, surrounding your self with exciting people and not being afraid to love will help you shift into a frequency bandwidth that will make you attract more of the same goodness and excitement. It will literally make you become the change you want to see in yourself and the world.

It’s basically about tuning in to and attracting the energy vibrations you would like to see more of in your reality. Thus while you are tuning in to higher frequencies and tuning out of the lower ones, you are co-creating a meaningful and positive personal reality which ultimately is projected and manifested onto the world. The result is that you would be creating the change you want to see in this world. On a collective level, this would be the beginning of a new earth.

Thanks for reading!

Gilbert Ross,  Soul Hiker


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10 Tips To Raise Your Energetic Vibration Today

BY BRIGITTE MEINDERS     JULY 13, 2013 

Raising your energetic vibration helps you, helps those around you, and helps the world. Here are ten simple things you can do today to start raising your energy. Try all of them or just one… either way it should make your day brighter and better.

1. Do yoga.

Yoga makes you feel good, both physically and mentally. Even if you only have time for one pose, do it. Do it at your desk, on the plane, in your living room. If you have time for a full class, completely surrender yourself to the practice and simply let the dance of yoga flow.

2. Connect with an animal.

Animals have humanity if you only pay enough attention. I love playing with my dogs and noticing their thoughts come into real-live actions, their sense of humor, loyalty, and passion.

3. Give someone a genuine hug.

I’m not talking about the kind of hug where your shoulders pop out of their sockets to create the most amount of space between you and your hugging partner. I’m talking full body, full emotions, hug it like you mean it. If you don’t, you shouldn’t be hugging that person in the first place. (Or they shouldn’t be hugging you.)

4. Watch a tree in the wind.

Trees tell their own story, they have seen a lot. They are a perfect definition of the balance between strength and grace.

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5. Do a random act of kindness.

Buy a coworker a cookie, or pick up something someone dropped for them. One random act of kindness leads to another, and each time you do something good for someone else, you plant a brand new good seed.

6. Smile.

Smile at people, babies, dogs, and life. The other day I passed a grumpy-looking man in a garbage truck who seemed to be scowling at me. I looked and him and gave him my brightest smile, and the scowl completely melted off his face and he beamed just as brightly. I hope that he passed that smile on to someone else.

7. Listen to birds.

They tell a story. You can tell when they are upset, interacting, or just singing for the pleasure of it. Their sounds are music for human ears.

8. Be light on your feet.

Leap, dance, and tread lightly. Skip for no reason, and don’t drag your feet. Don’t forget we’re all walking atop our lovely Mother Earth and she’s already taken enough of a beating. Don’t add to it.

9. Shut off your electronics and be present.

Don’t watch your life through your smart phone. Sometimes it’s cool to record things, other times things are so special they only deserve to live in your memory. Don’t miss out on those.

10. Give someone or something your undivided attention.

Hold a person’s eye contact, listen to what they have to say, and make them your priority. Focus on a project so intently that you have no idea how much time has passed.